Judging humanity

It is frustrating to me to think about how people view others that have had some of the skeletons in their closet outed. Each individual is a complex mess of good and bad and while yes many decidedly choose a particular path, a lot of us are a mixture of both. I am a big culprit in this as the negatives a person has, that I am aware of, are of a heavier weight in my judgment/reaction of/to/about them than the positives. One thing I will say in defense of that perception, is it is a safe way to be as then you remove yourself from potential danger related to those negatives a person has as much as possible. On the reverse side, you run the risk of not being able to understand/view the whole by letting some part(s) of a person turn you away. That may very well be your loss then if that person turns out to have many good aspects to them as well. It's such a puzzle to me, I was never good at figuring out people...