Forgiveness

I have tried to understand what forgiveness is before and I'm sure that even after todays revelation I still do not have, nor may ever have, a complete understanding. Let me state here a good word of advice for those seeking to improve their ability to forgive and quite possibly save themselves from some grief in the process. Whether the other party says they are sorry or not, whether you believe they were truly wrong or not, if you feel that party should apologize for something they said or did, then forgive them in your heart. You do not need to say you forgive them out loud. The other party does not even need to know you forgive them. Just say to yourself, "I forgive you". By no means mistake forget with forgive, it is good to remember the past to learn and improve your future chances of dealing with similar situations. If they unmistakably should apologize to you and do not, you now know something about their personality. If they do apologize then how much the sweeter is it to hear the words and know they care about you enough to accept their wrong doing and admit to it. I realize my statements are broad and I am sure there are circumstances that would alter parts of what I say in this message. This is from my experience and of course is subject to my own interpretation but I hope it helps even one person on one occassion heal themselves a little bit better then they may have if they carry the hurt around with them even if that person is myself.